Ok Update: I seem to be getting somewhere now.
I figured I would keep trying on one valve. intake for #8. I took my homemade doodad I made to fit the suction cup and chuck it into my drill. applied some lapping compound and went at it. spun the drill slow in both directions while lifting every couple of seconds same as hand lapping. I went at that for a little longer than I would do doing it by hand. then cleaned it all up and used the jewelers rouge to do a polish on them. again for a little longer.
wiped everything down real good, slid the valve back in the hole, spitzed some windex on the top and applied some air pressure while holding the valve down by hand. it's sealing!! YAY!!