Here is how I did break-in. Some may say this is good, some may have other preferences / advice.
Load the motor to ~75% power for short bursts and allow it to 'coast' for short bursts. Reasoning is to do a controlled heating / cooling cycling of the pistons to get everything to seat. I loved to get caught by a red light on local highways as it allowed me a nice long 75% power application. This usually pissed people off in back of me as I chopped the throttle when I reached the speed limit and those speed demons wanted to hit NASCAR speeds
What is not going to help with this approach is that the OE computer's programming will want to unlock the TCC in too many scenarios (this minimizes the cooling cycle). An aftermarket tune can fix this with better TCC lock.
For the oil changes during break-in, I was more conservative than Will and went with 50 miles, 200 miles, 500 miles, 1,000 miles and after that point did analysis every 3K miles. After 20K miles, analysis did not support going over 3K miles due to particulates (which was reported as normal for the P-400 as it broke-in).
Toward the gauges, Edge makes some that are compatible with the GMT-400 OBD-II computer. I too am a feedback junkie and want real numbers (not what the dash provides).
Regarding what gauges to monitor, I found when towing that EGT was the main influencer of things. With the Burb's configuration, EGT's over 1,100* F would cause the ECT's to climb until I brought the EGT's back to ~1K or less. Naturally, this meant that some of the 6% grade climbs were ssssslllllloooooowwwww . . . . Oh, and the TCC will probably unlock which adds to the amount of heat to shed
Also, watch RPM's on hill climbs as the OE tune will let them drop too low before commanding a downshift. This was another area where I had to take control by downshifting to not let the RPM's drop under ~2,200 when pulling hard uphill. With lower RPM's when pulling hard, this is less coolant flow during high power (heat generation). On flat ground, you can let the shift tables do their thing without manual overide.